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Saturday, March 19, 2016

As A Woman Over 50, Are You Still Dating Like You're 18?

Doesn’t it feel like just yesterday you were in high school or college? Chances are you still wear jeans and like many our age, your hair is longer than your mother’s. Women of that age used to cut their hair when they married.
With vibrant memories of your school years still floating around in your head, most of the time you don’t feel or look like you’re in your 50s and 60s.
So now that you’re single, you’re out there looking for members of the opposite sex like you would have back when you were in school.
But ... instead of wanting the handsome football captain, today you’re looking for his older version ... a man who is successful, good looking and charming.
So you go online with your 20-year-old mind and who pops up? Fifty-plus-year-old men who look like your grandfather did with grey, thinning hair, a belly and a boatload of baggage.
No wonder it seems like no one’s out there to date — they all seem too old for you!
But the truth is, you have your stuff too. While men are balding, you are probably finding strands of hair popping up all over the place. In fact, if you think about it, hair removal could probably be considered a part-time job for us ladies after 50.
You might have leftover pregnancy weight from 20 or 30 years ago, spider veins becoming more visible every day and hormones that wreak havoc with your system and put the fear of God into anyone within 10 feet of you on a bad day.
A couple of years ago, I remember seeing a picture on Facebook of my handsome high school sweetheart who, by the way, did play football back then.
I was shocked! The young man I remembered had long black hair and wore “cool painter’s pants.” In my mind, I expected an older version of this man.
Instead, there he was with snow-white hair and a suit. Although still handsome, he looked just like his father.
I remember thinking there was no way I could look that old? But I probably do. I just don’t see it.


As A Woman Over 50, Are You Still Dating Like You're 18?